soft cock worship
There is a revolution afoot.
Rip up the rulebook.
Start the game from scratch….
Re-meet your genitals without a goal and watch your life change forever.
Holding loving presence with your lingham (cock) can be so nourishing, so supportive, so calming, so soothing and healing.
Male bodies reflect they are under so much pressure to perform. To be hard… to be a certain size… the right length.. the right shape.
To be penetrative and action orientated.
To be ‘good enough’.
A hard cock is depicted as the epitome of manhood.
There is so much pressure on men to be hard and stay hard.
To show up for life as providers who have it all together. Reflected by their abilities to stand to attention on command.
This social pressure can be hugely damaging to those who feel shame about their ‘abilities’ in the bedroom, cock size or habits they’ve picked up such as high porn consumption.
A healthy, vital lingham goes up….
And it goes down…
The lingham is a part of the body to be honoured, worshipped and revered in a conscious and kind manner.
Not a convenient addition to be worked like a slot machine.
Understanding the lingham today
Many male bodies’ ability to gain and maintain healthy erections is changing.
Male testosterone levels are being severely impacted by the toxicity of the modern day lifestyle and impacts on brain function and cognition.
The majority of young people are receiving their sexual education from porn. Porn is filled with fake erections - pumped full of implants, injections and pills that mask the fluid and beautiful reality of the lingham.
Some of the challenges associated with excessive use of porn include:
challenges to connect interpersonally - high levels of screen time, high intensity and unrealistic content can lead to disconnection from the body and an ability to be with the human sides of intimacy
disassociation from the present moment
challenges gaining/maintaining erections without increasingly extreme content or dopamine hits
feelings of isolation
reduced ability to concentrate
lower self-esteem and body dysmorphia
over-ejaculation and post ejaculation depletion
reduced sensitivity in the genitals / a feeling of stuckness or blockage in the sexual energy
limited pleasure capacity - self pleasuring/masturbating in the same way over and over creates certain pathways in the brain and the body which limits the expansion and capacity of pleasure and blood flow
common addictive behavioural patterns such as frustration, impulsiveness, de-sensitisation
surgical procedures/operations on the lingham and genitals to adjust its shape/size (including adult circumcision) can create scar tissue, which left untreated, can limit blood flow and tighten the skin - can lead to reduced pleasure, sensitivity or complications
For those who are taking steps to work with their sexuality consciously or address any of the challenges above, it is common to have a period of time where it feels like your lingham ‘won’t play ball’.
During a period of personal growth and healing, the lingham and your connection to it, can take some time to meet itself and its pleasure again.
This is totally normal and to be celebrated.
Creating an increasing connection between the cock and the heart or a re-wiring of old patterns and behaviours takes time and patience.
Cultivating slowness and safety in the body
The lingham often requires a level of safety, attunement, loving care and presence to feel the full capacity of its engorgement and arousal.
Gentle, devotional, non-goal orientated touch with yourself or from a professional practitioner or loved one will support your connection with your lingham, your erections and your sexuality.
Soft cock worship can lead to far greater sensitivity, capacity, pleasure and connection to self and others.
The body has an incredible capacity to heal.
The lingham wants to be healthy, vital and to have the space to move with the natural ebbs and flows of your energetic current.
Immense pleasure and connection is waiting for you.
If any of these topics have touched you in some way or you’d like to know more, please reach out. Our couples and men’s work is extremely supportive for these challenges.
Much love
